For the couple, Should Fake Orgasm?

In terms of sex, we often hear the word fake orgasms or pretending to have an orgasm, when in fact it did not feel it. This behavior is often indicated a person when having sex with the intention of pleasing or add confidence partner.

Facts prove that many fake orgasms made women to please their partner. Women sometimes have to pretend to reach orgasm, when in fact they do not have or do not even enjoy sex itself due to various factors, such as sexual dysfunction in both men and women.

One study suggested, fake orgasm is often done because 90 percent of women rate men can not distinguish between fake and genuine orgasms. Women are also forced to make a fake orgasm so as not to offend or disappoint her partner in her heart even though they are not satisfied.

In the eyes of a psychologist who studied sexual problems, Zoya Dianaesthika Jusung, MPsi, pretending to feel the orgasm is the action that was detrimental, especially for women. With a fake orgasm, the goal of achieving quality and satisfying sex both parties actually more difficult to achieve.

"Women do fake orgasms to lose yourself. Pretending orgasm that is, in addition to fool him, he had also been cheating spouse. Many women who feel by not communicating fake orgasms will increase confidence in their partner, but they are not," said consultant sex of the Institute Research Psychology, Faculty of Psychology, University of Indonesia, it is.

Cases in which fake orgasm is often found in women who have partners with erectile dysfunction (ED). It's no secret when an erection problem can cause women to be difficult to be satisfied that, to avoid offense in action in bed, often women have to fake an orgasm and keep this secret in his heart.

Zoya suggests, action fake an orgasm should be avoided and replaced with a more intimate approach through communication and openness with your partner. In communicating about sex, both men and women should communicate with assertive way, not to offend each other or hurt each other.

"The way that does not hurt submission is very important. For example, do not get (a woman) said, 'Ah, you ugly or very weak anyway.' Tomorrow, tomorrow, in fact (the man) will be weaker," he said.

So alike find pleasure in sex, couples can coach each other in the desired direction and express how sex should be done. "For example, say, 'Ok, that's right over here! That's good, keep continue doing this'. That will help the men and women to get satisfaction," he added.

There is also a good idea, each pair using the afterplay or shortly after sexual activity to be an occasion to communicate. "When afterplay used to open with each other about new sexual experiences occur. And, for the women, do not feel shy to express what is felt during intercourse, and if you reach an orgasm or not," he said.

He asserted, in principle, men and women have equal rights to have the satisfaction and pleasure during sex. Enjoyment and satisfaction, continued Zoya, actually has a different meaning in the context of sex.

Enjoyment or pleasure is usually more to do with things physical and genital, as stimuli on the body or a certain point, and the position and related tricks. "While satisfaction was much concerning the effects of psychological or satisfaction in self-satisfaction of an individual. Which is to say, something more than pleasure," he said.