Let me not having an affair, sex should be Creative

Once people got excited because the results of research that says 2 of 3 men in Jakarta do the affair. Well, this time relative numbers continue to rise.

Dr. Boyke Dian Nugraha, Sp.OG., MARS, a specialist in obstetrics and gynecology, in a seminar once mentioned that four of the five men of cheating!

Data in Clinical Couples Dr. Boyke, found that about 42 percent of husband and wife having an affair when they were aged 40 years. Not only that. A study in Bandung, West Java conducted by a psychologist mention that 2 of the 5 women workers also conduct an affair.

The affair seems to have become a common phenomenon. Affair which incidentally is also one free sex, often cause problems. Incidence of unwanted pregnancy (KTD) for example. These problems involved increasing the number of abortions.

As an illustration, approximately 2.3 million abortions performed each year. Not to mention the maternal mortality due to abortion are also quite high. "The amount is higher when compared with Bangladesh," commented Dr. Boyke.

In addition to the emergence of an unwanted pregnancy, free sex no charge also contributed to various infectious diseases. One of them is HIV / AIDS infection. If you have this, then the HIV / AIDS virus can infect your partner the truth.

Reason cheating
The affair is a sexual relationship outside of marriage are legitimate. The condition can occur within a reasonably short time or long, with a low level of emotional involvement or high.

As mentioned Dr. Boyke, there are several reasons for people having an affair, among them:

- The inability to form a joint commitment of marriage partner. Lack of commitment, he did not realize the meaning and purpose of marriage also encourage someone to do the affair.
- Faith is weak and a great sense of egoism of each pair.
- Anger is hidden from the couple, married life dissatisfaction, due to unmet emotional needs of the couple, often lead to infidelity in married life.
- The existence of personal problems in the marriage.
- Curiosity as to what sex is done with others. Moreover, if sex with a partner experienced burnout.

When this happens, the emergence of a variety of problems can persist. So he suggested that each partner is aware of the symptoms. Before the marriage foundered, it helps each partner to self-correct to find and assess the errors that have occurred.

In the Bathroom
If that were related to sexual life, then it could not hurt to bring myself to communicate with a partner. Healthy lines of communication to express the problems being faced by the sex partner.

If problems occurred because the issue of sexual relations, it would require some creativity in support of the issue. Selection of place for example. If the atmosphere lead to boredom bed while having sex, move on to other similar places.

Indeed, during this time to have sex in the bed of choice is mostly done by the couple. In addition to a comfortable position, the bed will provide a sense of relaxed and romantic.

Though the option was not confined to bed alone. "Places such as chairs, especially chairs sleeveless, table, stand in front of the mirror, could be an option that gives the impression of a special place in sex," continued Dr. Boyke.

The bathroom was also able to support the activities of sex. Here, couples can take a shower, a spa or sauna together. According to Dr. Boyke this is very supportive of foreplay and afterplay. It's just some things to consider when having sex in the bathroom. As careful on the slippery bathroom floor.

By doing some of the creations in sexual intercourse, the possibility of infidelity can be overcome. Not only that, the negative effects of infidelity like to stress, a variety of venereal diseases, HIV infection / AIDS, unwanted pregnancies, infertility and cervical cancer can be avoided.

In general, infidelity is more often life threatening marriage and career. The risk of the heaviest, in the event of divorce, can cause various problems. Ranging from financial problems, emotional burden on children, problems with other family members, a sense of shame, to feel sad.
Keep in mind the difficulties to start life with a new partner, which may be greater than anything previously imagined.

Experts agree that a happy marriage will make your partner can work together and lighten the load. Do you still and your partner build a happy marriage? @ Diy