When Wife Caught Bisexual

The problems of life is increasingly complex. Life in the household and workplace issues tinged behavior that deviates from normal size. One of the more distortion that occurs is a sexual deviation. Housewife who had a normal marriage finally fell into the arms of the same sex.

A mother, call her name Sari (41), complained confused with the situation himself. It has been nearly a year he was involved intercourse (sex) with a kind friend, tutor her son.

Husband and two children did not know that he has a special relationship with the fellow members of the single women's social organization. Only, her husband had warned that he is not excessive in touch with her friend. "Up like a courtship," commented Sari husband.

Relationship with your husband during this normal, as there is no problem, including in a sexual relationship. If anything about a lump, which is the difference of religion. Another issue, often in charge Sari husband out of town.

After finally trapped in a sexual relationship with a kind friend, Sari is now very agitated and confused. Emotionally, she felt unfulfilled needs this kind of relationship. However, he at once felt at a crossroads, far from peace because of the conflict.

Two sexes
Sari lived sexual behavior is commonly known as bisexual or double sexuality. Bisexual is a person's behavior or sexual orientation, both men and women, who are interested in sexual and erotic in the two sexes.

Team of psychologists from Northwestern University, USA, led by Michael Bailey conducted research on men and women by showing them blue movies that contain scenes of sex between men and men, women and girls, and boys and of women.
Apparently, their responses vary in response to the spectacle of a sex scene in a blue film. Results showed that women are always excited to watch the sex scenes between men and men (homosexual), girls and women (lesbians), as well as male and female (normal).

In contrast, boys are more excited watching the sex scene between the girls and women (lesbians) and between male and female (normal).
Conclusion Bailey et al study were women tend to have a bisexual orientation than men. Understanding is likely to have bisexual orientation here is more pointed to the emergence of women's sexual arousal while watching a sex scene in a blue film, whereas in their sex lives of everyday could be their normal sexual behavior. However, many also vent his passion by having sexual relations with both sexes.

Driving factors
Oriented bisexual tendencies will manifest into action or bisexual behavior is driven by several circumstances:

1. Trial and error
Behavior to try to acquire new sexual experience is often done antarsahabat. The man who has been married to try new sexual experiences with male companions. Similarly, women who have been married to try new sexual experiences with female companions. Bisexual behavior may also arise from the results of trial and error among homosexual men and women or among women friends of lesbians and her male friend. Thus, the phenomenon of sexual orientation are complex or complicated and can not be viewed only on behavior that seem on the surface (overt behavior).

2. Free sex (free sex)
The adherents of free sex often sex party attended by many people with various sexual orientations. In these circumstances, it is open the possibility of experiments in bisexual relationships. When in a relationship do they experience pleasure as expected, the behavior is likely to be repeated so that he can develop into people who have a bisexual behavior.

3. Unmet emotional needs
The results of multiple studies on sexuality showed that bisexual women have some emotional needs that can only be filled by men, while some other emotional needs, according to them, can only be filled with women. To meet all these emotional needs, they have a dual role of sexuality.

4. The need for variety and creativity
The study of bisexual men indicate that most of them to be bisexual because he wanted to meet the need for variety and creativity to get satisfaction and pleasure in sexual intercourse.

In the above case, Sari able to present yourself as a loyal and affectionate towards his family. However, beneath it, he had an affair with fellow kind. Meeting with friends cheating is built starting from friendship in social organization that followed.

From the relations, finally some emotional needs that can not be met by the husband (attention, affection, feeling accepted, and so on) terpehuhi by others. Closeness is then equipped with a physical expression that ultimately leads to sexual activity.

Bisexual behavior including sexual activity deviations in accordance with the norms of religion and society. Therefore, the bisexual encounter the same problem with the gays and lesbians. They are generally more depressed than gays or lesbians because of their sexual identity is unclear. Here and there will or "AC / DC" is an insult for the bisexual.

Because the magnitude of these pressures, the bisexual is generally more prone to mental disorders than their heterosexual (normal) or gay / lesbian. An Australian study published in the British Journal of Psychiatry found that bisexual people have very deep feelings of anxiety, depression, and various other negative thoughts.

In connection with the above case, it is understood that the young mother was very depressed, anxious, depressed and even face the fact that he is "already" being bisexual. He wants to get out of the situation was stifling him. Could it be? Of course you can. @

MM Patchouli Widyarini
Lecturer in Program S-1 and S-2 Psychology Gunadarma University, Jakarta