Sex or Love, Which Is More Important?

Discussion about sex and love are very interesting. Both can be seen from different viewpoints. Many consider sex and love are two different things.

In the eyes of some, love is often seen as the heart needs, while sex was limited to the needs of mere lust. Others have tried to make love as a bridge to get sex. However, rarely do people use sex as a way to get love.

In fact, as expressed in the book Guide to Sex, almost every couple who long for a remarkable sexual relations also believe that this grew out of relationships built up a good friendship.

So, if you feel hungry and crave sexual partners as well as tremendous experience, Befriend, then fell in love. This is a good start of it all. So, do not be surprised if a pair of men and women who are old friends and foster good relations of friendship suddenly fell in love with one another.

Therefore, the book by Anne Hooper suggests that if you really want to close with someone and enjoy a sex life that is so beautiful, it would be better if you start with an existing building friendships.

And in many cultures, the continuation of this friendship becomes increasingly valid with wedding procession which formalizes the relationship to be feasible and more intimate.

So, love opens the way for the realization of sexual experience. Everywhere, throughout the first love is present, it will usually open up opportunities for the occurrence of first sexual intercourse experience. If you come from a background or religion who only gave the green light on pascapernikahan sex, sex problems will certainly be a test of mental and your patience.

In the days before the discovery of safe contraceptives, men and women usually had to take pains to do what is called flirtation (petting). This means that they are making love using their hands and mouths.

Even so, they did not decide on further action. They do not do what is called penetrative sex or intercourse. The advantage of couples who do not perform penetrative sex is that they can understand each other a sensual reaction. They also became a skilled partner without fear of causing pregnancy. However, the disadvantage is they often do not feel satisfied that their experience becomes imperfect.

Recognize the importance of partner
First sexual experiences are often run less smoothly and imperfect. This is very reasonable because of the lack of your knowledge and your own body does not know the couple well.

From the side of the woman, often times many are experiencing painful or uncomfortable experience when first connected. This occurs because the first time during sex hymen that covers the inside of the vagina should be breached or torn. This is where the importance of recognition of each other. Not just know the name and status of each, but physically with one another must understand what is needed a partner.

So, although it seems to separate love and sex, this experience is actually two closely related to each other. Good relations will lead to incredible sexual experience. Conversely, great sex can not be separated from each self-knowledge (which brings to the experience of love).

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Sex, Appearance, or Communications, Which is More Important?

In marital relationships, sexual activity is an essential element and a priority for the sake of preserving the integrity of a marriage. But on top of that, there's the main thing and the key is communication.

As noted sexologist dr. Boyke Dian Nugraha, SpOG, MARS, the primary cause cracks household is not solely because of sexual problems. Indeed, any sexual problems in the household could be overcome by better communication antarpasangan.

"Factors of sex and physical appearance are not satisfied with less than 30 per cent as the cause of infidelity. The major factor is fixed communications. Communication is the most important, because 56 percent of the causes of divorce and infidelity," said Boyke when found in the book launch of "The Doctors", in Jakarta, Tuesday (06/07/2011) yesterday.

Boyke said, in general, the men began an affair when he reaches 40 years and over. The reasons can vary. Starting from feeling bored, dissatisfied, and just want to try it. Therefore, Boyke also appealed to the husband and wife to always keep up appearances and taking care of themselves.

"The woman sometimes, if you feel have a husband, do not want ngerawat themselves. So that his body be elastic," he explained.

But on the other hand, Boyke also hope that the men helped maintain the appearance. The reason, according to Boyke, today many women who cheat because their husbands are not able to care for themselves.

"So, be beautiful, be saucy, it is the responsibility of each individual. The man needs, women also need to be," he said.

Furthermore Boyke said, bored and discontent against the couple can actually be overcome by good communication. The couple can be intimate and find creative new variations in sexual intercourse or by performing a second honeymoon.

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