Experience: Wife Not Comfortable with Condoms

For a long time he wore KB spiral. However, in recent months, her husband suddenly like wearing a condom. As a result of sex precisely because he no longer bothered to orgasm and lazy in touch.

"I was 40, the husband of 43 years. I KB spiral since the second child was born. Some of this month's husband likes to use a condom. When I asked them for anything because I do anyway KB spiral, he says because of good.

When I asked again how much better, she just laughed. The problem is, I feel uncomfortable. Sometimes feeling sick and listless so often can not orgasm. Previously I orgasm easily. Finally we argued a lot because my husband wants to use a condom, while I do not like. Moreover, I have not KB.

What exactly is meant husband wear a condom? I suspect, lest the husband got venereal disease, wear a condom so I did not catch. But, I noticed no signs of pain in the genitals.

How can I make it okay to orgasm while her husband wear a condom? What if her husband use a condom, wife feel sick? "
W.S, Tangerang

The function of condoms
There are two functions of condoms. First, it prevents pregnancy. Second, to prevent transmission of disease or infection through sexual intercourse. There is also a third function, associated with sexual comfort.

Not a few men are more comfortable using a condom because they do not touch so much less sensitive. On the other hand, many men actually feel disturbed because of less pronounced.

On the women, some of them disrupted when couples use condoms. They feel uncomfortable because of indirect contact, and some even ill. There is also more convenient because it is not wetted when the partner ejaculated sperm.

So it seems to complaints both parties, both husband and wife, are subjective. Naturally, if the husband use a condom with a reason "better". Problem is there any other reason, only he knows.

Your guess about the possible husband of disease, it must have a good reason. Without reason, it will only create new problems in the relationship with their husbands. Only he knows, whether high-risk sexual behaviors so that he use condoms to prevent transmission of infection through sex.

If this is done, then he's trying to prevent transmission to you. On the other hand, if the condoms you can not be disturbed until orgasm, this certainly should be considered by the husband.

Husband relented
The pain you're experiencing may be caused by psychological barriers because their husbands use condoms. As a result, vaginal reduced or obstructed to cause pain during intercourse.

It may also be due to lack of good quality condoms, giving rise to discomfort in the vagina. Because you actually do not agree to her husband use a condom, it seems that the main cause psychological barriers.

Certainly not all wives experience pain when her husband use a condom. For wives who are ready, let alone pleased her husband use a condom, it would not happen psychic barriers.

Condoms are now even used as a commodity related to the sexual variety. Therefore, there are various kinds of shapes, colors, and flavors of condoms. Throughout manufactured to meet the health requirements, various types of course not a problem.

Fix your problem is simple, though not always easy. First, it should be clear why happy using condoms. Second, if the use of condoms there is no connection with high-risk sexual behavior, no need to use it.

That is, the husband should "succumb" although do not feel "more comfortable" that his wife is not disturbed so harmonious sexual relationship again. Sexual intercourse should be done to the interests of both parties, not for the interests of one party only. This is the real essence of a harmonious sexual life.

Consultation is answered by Prof.Dr.Wimpie Pangkahila, Sp.And