Story: Failed Erection Before Marriage

Knowing that the experience of having sex with two friends always failed erection, he was so worried. Am I correct that this young man has erectile dysfunction? What is the cause, considering the very good sexual arousal?

"I am a man aged 31 years, plans to marry next year with a 26-year-old girlfriend.

So far I never had sexual intercourse with two of my female friends, but very disappointing. With both I fail, can not erect. In fact, prior to initiating sex, I am very excited and can have an erection as well.

However, when going to start having sex, my erection goes away quickly. After that, it is very difficult to erect again. I am very shy with a frightening experience it. I am so afraid to try this with my future wife.

Please advise, am I impotent? How to solve this problem? Is when I get married, I would still like this? What should I do so I do not fail when getting married next year? "
LJ, Batam

Not necessarily the DE
The fear you experience erectile dysfunction (current term for impotence) I can understand. The failure of having sexual relations with two friends was certainly very disappointing and scary. However, failure does not automatically make you a man who called erectile dysfunction (ED).

Erectile dysfunction means the inability to stay within reach and maintain a penile erection sufficient for sexual intercourse. Even if you do experience a failure to achieve and maintain penile erection sufficient, not necessarily a failure that continues to happen.

Even if you never tried to have sexual relations with two women, you do not specify how often to do it. It may be a sexual relationship that you do only one or two times.

On erectile dysfunction, erectile failure is still frequently occur after sexual intercourse, at least 25 percent of the opportunity to do so. So, if only one or two times before, yet must have experienced erectile dysfunction.

Failure psychic
Failure you had sexual intercourse with two friends was most likely due to psychological barriers that arise at the time would have sex.

Some of the psychological barriers that may arise at the time, among others, fear of failure, guilt, fear of getting caught, fear of pregnancy, or any other feelings.

Not to mention how the two friends. If their reaction is not fun, let alone reject, it will inhibit the reaction of your erection, and cause failure.

If the cause of your failure is due to psychological barriers such as this, it should not happen again after getting married someday. However, it does not mean there is no husband who experience erectile dysfunction due to psychological barriers. Not a few husbands had erectile dysfunction due to psychological barriers, for example, because it can not satisfy his wife and boredom with his wife.

Physical failure
In addition to psychological barriers, there are physical barriers that can lead to erectile failure. Although it may be barriers or physical impairment does not happen to you, this should not be ruled out.

For that, if the failure is still just your natural erection after getting married someday, you should consult further and checked out. Thus, it is known what the actual cause of your erectile failure.

Perhaps better if you do not have sexual relations with your friend again. The problem is, if the failure occurs again, I fear it may cause due to worse for your next sexual function. Better to wait until marriage.

Try not to be disturbed by fear of failure because of past experience it. Do not let fear of failure because of the experience, which inhibits your erection after getting married someday.

If one day after the wedding you are having the same failure, I suggest do not wait until much longer. Immediately consult to get treatment so as not to cause any further adverse effect.

What matters more, not to cause complaints wife. If it happens complaints wife, might be more difficult to handle. @

Consultation is answered by Prof. Dr. Wimpie Pangkahila, spand