Why Husband Masturbation?

"I am aged 44, husband 51, has been married 17 years. During this time there are no problems in sex. Only in a few months we rarely do so because the husband's increasingly rare start.

First is usually the husband who solicit or initiate. So I do not to solicit or initiate. For me it does not matter if I have to start first. At first I suspected cheating husband. Surprisingly, two days ago I saw a husband masturbate in the bathroom.

At that time I woke up around two o'clock in the morning. I saw him in the bathroom was masturbation. He was surprised when I see it. When I asked, he replied, 'Want it'. When I asked why not with me, he replied, 'Nah nothing'.

Is he experiencing sexual deviations? Are there people who feel more comfortable doing masturbation than sex with wife? Do so on a husband would be so? How to make a husband to have sex with me again? "
NP, Jakarta

Four possible
Actually masturbation is not strange sexual activity. In fact, the children had to masturbate even without realizing it. Masturbation is not only do people who are not married. People who are married, do it in certain circumstances. This may need to know.

If a married man was masturbating, the question arises why. There are four possibilities. First, the partner is not in place. Second, sexual intercourse does not give satisfaction. Third, just for variety. Fourth, tied to masturbation as a result of previous experience.

The four possible causes of this may be experienced by your husband. Although at that time you were home, because you were asleep, husband masturbating. Regarding the second possibility, husband is quite sure whether to feel quite satisfied with the sexual relationship he does with you.

Likewise the third and fourth possibilities. Only a husband who knows for sure whether she felt dependent or tied to masturbation due to his past experience.

However, whatever the cause, masturbation is not clue someone is having a sexual disorder. Whatever the possible causes of the experienced husband, he's been having sex with you.

There are also people who find it more enjoyable to masturbate than have sex. This situation, among others, experienced by people who fail to achieve orgasm through intercourse.

Not a few women who continue sexual relations with masturbation because her husband was not able to resume sexual relations. In men, it may happen that the same circumstances. For example, the reaction partner is not as expected. With masturbation, it was he who set up, in lieu of a reaction partner.

To verify the cause of her husband masturbating, doing direct communication. Through good communication and open, you will receive an answer why he chose masturbation. Based on that answer, then sought a way out.

Sexology consultation with Prof. Dr. Dr. Wimpie Pangkahila, And Sp